Lumo guides couples through structured conversations using evidence-based frameworks. The AI helps you:

1. Express what you really mean: Translate frustration into clear needs ("I feel overwhelmed" instead of "You never help")
2. Understand your partner: Identify underlying emotions beneath surface complaints
3. Avoid escalation: Recognize destructive patterns (criticism, defensiveness) and redirect before they escalate
4. Build connection: Turn conflicts into opportunities for deeper understanding

Based on 40+ years of research from Dr. John Gottman and other relationship experts.

Yes. Your conversations stay between you and your partner. Lumo is built privacy-first:

• GDPR-compliant: Servers in Frankfurt, Germany
• No ads: We make money from subscriptions, not your data
• No data selling: Your conversations are never sold or shared
• Full control: Export or delete all data anytime

Lumo costs $5.99/month or $39.99/year for both partners. This includes:

• Unlimited guided conversations
• Couple Tests (10+ categories)
• Weekly personalized insights
• Relationship pattern analysis
• Both partners included

Free 7-day trial available. No credit card required. Cancel anytime.

For comparison: Traditional couples therapy costs $150-300 per session ($600-1,200/month). Lumo is 60-120x more affordable while providing daily support.

For guided conversations together, yes—both partners need Lumo. However, you can start solo for personal reflection and understanding your own communication patterns.

Many people use Lumo solo initially, and their partner joins later when they see the positive changes. Solo use helps you:

• Understand your communication patterns
• Identify your emotional triggers
• Practice expressing needs clearly
• Prepare for difficult conversations

Couple Tests are fun, revealing quizzes you take together to see where you align (and where you don't). Each partner answers the same questions solo, then you compare results in a reveal screen.

How it works:

1. Choose a test category (e.g., "Is It Cheating?", "Dark Secrets", "Would You Rather?")
2. Answer 10-12 questions solo—your partner can't see your answers yet
3. Wait for your partner to finish (you'll get a notification)
4. See the reveal: Your match score + exactly where you agree and disagree

Popular categories: Is It Cheating? (boundaries), Dark Secrets (honesty), Sex & Power (intimacy), Would You Rather? (hypotheticals), and more. New tests added weekly.

Why it works: 87% of couples discover something new about each other in the first test. Surprising results spark meaningful conversations you might never have otherwise.

Just 5 minutes per day for most conversations. You can pause and resume anytime—Lumo fits into your schedule, not the other way around.

Research shows: Consistent short sessions (5 min/day) are more effective than occasional long sessions (60 min/week). Small, daily improvements compound over time.

Most couples report noticeable improvement within 1-2 weeks of daily use. Based on data from 1,000+ Lumo users:

• 87%report better understanding of partner's perspective after 1 week
• 40%reduction in misunderstandings within first week
• 73%experience fewer escalated arguments after 1 month

Note: Results vary by couple. Consistency is key—daily use shows better outcomes than sporadic use.

Yes. Lumo is built on 40+ years of peer-reviewed relationship research:

• Gottman Method: Dr. John Gottman's research can predict relationship success with 90% accuracy based on communication patterns
• Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT): Dr. Sue Johnson's framework for understanding attachment needs in relationships
• Nonviolent Communication (NVC): Marshall Rosenberg's method for expressing needs without blame

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Yes! Lumo offers a free 7-day trial with full access to all features:

• Unlimited guided conversations
• All Couple Tests (10+ categories)
• Weekly insights
• All AI features
• Both partners included

No credit card required for the trial. Only pay if you decide to continue after 7 days. Cancel anytime with one tap.

Start solo! Many people begin using Lumo alone for personal reflection and understanding their own communication patterns. Benefits of solo use:

• Identify your emotional triggers
• Practice expressing needs clearly
• Understand your communication style
• Prepare for difficult conversations

Often, partners join later when they notice positive changes in communication. You can't control your partner's choices, but you can improve your own communication skills.